Singapore-based life coach Ruchi Parekh believes work-life balance is a total hoax. Read on to find out why.
Many people pose the question, “Is work-life balance possible?”
To tell you the truth, I don’t think there is any such thing as work-life balance.
In my opinion, there’s no separation between “work” and “life”. They are intertwined.
As a life coach, my life and work are indistinguishable. Whether it is the sessions, content writing, client meetings, administrative work, raising my kids (and their tantrums), my need to socialise, my personal time… it is all thrown into one pool of (sometimes) utter chaos.
What is work-life balance, anyway?
We feel that work-life balance may be easier for nine-to-fivers? But a “work-day” typically continues into “at home-work” (chores). Not to mention, the long commutes that most people have to endure going to and from work makes it one crazy day.
Work-life balance is hard no matter who you are or what work you do. I think it is a big hoax and let me tell you why:
The problem is that the very idea of work-life balance suggests a neatly divisible pie that we can split as we wish. The truth is that life simply isn’t like that.
It’s not even a question of balance. It’s a question of control.
There are times when work and life can be shaped into our desires.
What do I mean? Well, for one, we can choose to keep them apart to provide clarity and focus or pull them together when we crave clutter and noise.
But often, despite our busy schedules and careful planning, one mixes into the other, leaving us painfully conscious that our efforts are collapsing all around us.
We wrongly believe that work-life balance is something you can “achieve.” This idea makes us miserable.
Balance is not fixed, it’s a state of constant flux.
There is no such thing as work-life balance
I have accepted that work and life are layers on top of each other, with rotating levels of importance, and I have benefited from celebrating that they overlap rather than to try to force them apart.
Now, I’m not suggesting this is a guilt-free approach to life, nor is it easy.
But it is worth a shot.
Sometimes we try and do a host of things, in an attempt to be organised and efficient but then realise that none of it is getting done correctly. Does this sound familiar to you?
Maybe it is because we do not take into account the interferences and disturbances.
We meticulously plan our days and work schedules but then life happens and we get thrown off-balance. Sound even more familiar?
It’s all in YOUR control
I have learned over time that how I feel and react to situations like these is up to me. How much or how little guilt I experience at work or at home is in my control.
It’s time to stop worrying about the perfect balance, and instead, focus on being with people you love, and doing the work that matters. Since there will never be enough time, a mix might just be the solution.
Honestly, you don’t have to choose one over the other. Rather, look for the harmony between the two knowing that it will vary over time, often on a daily basis.
The right balance for you today will probably be different for you tomorrow. The balance when you are single will be different if you marry; if you have children; when you start a new career; or when you are nearing retirement.
Instead of striving for a work-life balance, strive for a work-life harmony and watch how much easier your life starts getting.
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