How Do You Define Success? Here’s How To Achieve It

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Stop defining success the way others define it and start creating your own success.

Each one of us has our own definition of success. It is very important to understand your own version of it or else you will be climbing a mountain trying to reach the top, only to realise that it was the wrong mountain.

Have you ever heard of the saying, “If you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, you will forever think it is stupid”?

Defining your success based on the metrics of others is an unrealistic goal.

Success can be measured in various ways, including how happy you are in your personal and professional life. It can be defined by your job, whether you got promoted or found recognition, or whether you feel you are making a valuable contribution to the society.

We all have dreams and aspirations. For example, many of us want fame and money, but do we really want it do we want it because someone else has it?

Very few people actually understand what it truly means to be successful or achieve success in their own lives.

Defining YOUR own success

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Before you go off achieving goals that you don’t define as success, check in with yourself. If you want success, you need to be crystal clear on what reaching the top means to you and understand what goes into getting there, how it fits your personality and your life.

A good way to do that is writing down a major end goal, then smaller milestones in between to mark off. But how are you sure that it is the right goal in the first place?

Here’s what you should look at when formulating your goals: your personality traits and characteristics. Research says that there are some fundamental characteristics that most successful people have in common and one’s personality is a big contributor to one’s success.

Understanding your personality type could take you a step closer to understanding yourself and ultimately understanding your definition of success.

The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is an extremely popular personality test designed in the early 1900s.

It helps analyse the psychological profile of individuals, as well as how they tend to make decisions.

 

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Understanding yourself and your traits help on a personal level as well as give you an edge when making a career decision. Knowing what works for you will help you showcase your best attributes at your workplace.

While personality type and one’s characteristics are big drivers of success, there are some more components that also must be considered while working on the secret sauce to success. Your values, belief systems, skills, focus, dedication and mindset play a big role in being successful.

You can have the extrovert personality suitable for a sales job but if you don’t enjoy it and hate the company you work at, you can never succeed in that environment.

There is no single secret sauce to success but multiple ones

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It is a combination of various factors including yourself and your environment. However, being successful or not is entirely up to you depending on the actions you take to reach your goal or reach the top of the mountain.

Find what works for you, look at your behavioural patterns, your traits, your values and use them as a guide. Your success is in your hands. You have the power within you to shape your life the way you want it.

Remember to add the following to your secret sauce:

  • Invest in yourself.
  • Believe in yourself.  
  • Be kind to yourself
  • Be happy.
  • Be content.
  • Take action towards only what gives you joy. Work hard but play harder.
  • Don’t compare your inside to another’s outside.
  • Enjoy what you do. Everything else will fall into place.
  • Don’t take life too seriously; no one gets out of it alive anyway. 

 

Ruchi Parekh is an Associate Certified Coach with a focus on Success, Life, Executive and Career Coaching. Find out more about Ruchi on her Facebook page or website.

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