Distracted by your love life? You're not alone.
Falling in love is great and all but science has found that new love makes you less productive.
So you’re seeing someone new, and things have been going really well. Pretty soon, he’s all you ever think of when you’re not together — which might be a great sign for your relationship, but doesn’t exactly bode well for your work ethic.
If you find your productivity suffering so soon after starting a new relationship, you can take comfort in the fact that you’re not alone. Researchers have found that new love can affect a person’s ability to focus and perform tasks that require attention.
A study published in the journal Motivation and Emotion found that participants in new relationships (meaning less than six months) were so consumed by their passionate love that their daily tasks like study and work were impaired.
Researcher Henk van Steenbergen explained to The Huffington Post that this could be due to how the brain allocates its limited resources. “It could be that the obsessive nature of passionate love imposes important constraints on performing well in tasks that require self-control.”
In other words, if your thoughts are so focused on your beloved, then your brain is less able to focus on other things.
If new love makes you less productive, what can you do to stay on your A-game while falling in love?
Most people can’t just sweep their feelings under a rug and unearth them at the end of the workday — and really, who would want to? Falling in love is exhilarating and thrilling, why hurry to rid yourself of these emotions?
But you can take some measures to make sure that falling in love doesn’t get in the way of your day-to-day obligations. Here are just some of them.
1. Get some perspective
It’s easy to get yourself wrapped in thoughts of your new love and forget everything else.
That’s why you have to exert some effort to refocus on your long-term goals and think about why it’s important to do the day-to-day tasks that just aren’t as appealing as daydreaming about this new object of your affections.
2. Set boundaries
Don’t let your new love consume your life by setting boundaries. For example, you could schedule to see him only a few times during the week. You could also make it a point to schedule time with other people — friends, family, etc — without your guy.
Just make sure to tell him that you’re setting boundaries to keep your relationship healthy, not because you’re getting sick of his face.
3. Remove distractions
If your workspace is decorated with your new love’s photographs, take them down. How can you hope to concentrate on the task at hand when you’re surrounded by distractions?
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